011714 #human "Love the necessary hard work." Part of the work is brute-force (with logic too though!) overcoming your emotive snap reactions. When Millie says "I wish you would spend more time doing stuff with us at home," you have to let the easy defensive retorts wash through you, and bite down on it and realize it's a perfectly valid thing for her to have said, and respond in a generous, don't-have-to-be-right way.