051232 1. you may be using the supportive words or gestures of allies to self-soothe, leading to complacency instead of progress. 2. you should get over your superstitious fear of words like should, progress, quality, writing, teacher, gifted, talent, realistic, good, practical, ambition, networking, special, is, normal 3. it probably takes more than swapping out the pronouns to turn self-centered whining into writing other people can use