like one of the other ways could be by helping someone else who needs you, being present with someone else, like for example Millie—yeah the heat vents smell weird and there’s all this other shit but we already know all that. What we *don’t* know is what the hell is going on with Millie and what exactly she needs and how I can help. But maybe I do know at least a little bit of that, if I get quiet and listen.