#sister Work on the things you need to improve. Once you accidentally recognize one during a lucid moment, you may learn to recognize them on purpose—possibly by detecting the farty air of avoidance that sometimes swirls around them. Don't limit practice to the things you've already mastered. You're going to have to be, like, unbelievably brave. But the part you haven't been able to believe yet is that it's not impossible. Its possibility depends on necessity. Short another tragedy, you may have to manufacture your own necessity. Please be considerate of your children's happiness as you find new, healthier ways to do that. (2016)